Knowing how to co-parent over the holidays when there are external plans at play and emotions are high is no small task. However, there are ways to avoid and mitigate conflict, as well as protect you and your child’s relationship if things go pear-shaped.
Here’s how to address three common high-pressure scenarios co-parents encounter during the holidays, and how Lander Solicitors Queensland can support you.
Co-parenting scenario 1: changeover doesn’t go as planned
When holiday plans hinge on a parenting changeover, even small disruptions can cause significant stress.
Co-parenting advice if the other parent doesn’t stick to the agreed schedule
- Stay open and respectful: Call, text, or email to clarify the situation while referencing the agreed parenting plan or order. If a protection or family violence order prevents direct contact, communication should go through the relevant lawyer.
- Explore solutions: If the other parent has a reasonable excuse for the delay, try to arrange make-up time. If they outright refuse to comply, legal advice may be necessary.. We go into more depth about what to do if your ex-partner is withholding our child here.
- Document everything: Keep a record of missed changeovers, including the date, time, and location. This documentation is essential if you need to file a contravention application or re-open a court matter in time to come. We don’t recommend relying on your memory for this, better to document it.
Proactive strategies for smooth changeovers
- Plan parenting arrangements well in advance and ensure both parties have a clear understanding of expectations.
- Seek advice from a solicitor to determine what arrangements are fair and appropriate for everyone involved.
At Lander Solicitors, we help co-parents create actionable parenting plans or court orders to reduce confusion and foster cooperation during the holidays. Learn more about parenting plans and orders in this blog.
Co-parenting scenario 2: extended family and third parties
The holidays often involve extended family, which can complicate co-parenting arrangements. Here’s how to manage third-party expectations and emotions while keeping the child’s best interests front and centre:
- Focus on the child’s needs: In family law, the child’s well-being is paramount. Extended family, like grandparents, may have rights to seek time with the child, but this should align with existing parenting plans or orders.
- Defuse questions from third parties: If extended family members question the arrangements, you can explain that these plans are consistent with a parenting plan or court order that was arranged to meet the child’s best interests, not personal preferences.
Co-parenting scenario 3: competing schedules
The holiday season can create clashes when both parents want to spend time with the children on the same day/s. Here’s how to handle these situations:
- Compromise and plan ahead: Negotiation and flexibility are key. For example, one parent might agree to let the other take the child on an overseas holiday this year, with the understanding that they will have the opportunity to do the same next year (if it’s in the child’s best interest).
- Seek legal guidance for travel plans: For overseas trips, we strongly recommend obtaining legal advice about passport requirements and court orders to ensure smooth communication between the child and the other parent during travel and to minimise any travel disruptions with the authorities. Lander Solicitors Queensland can help with this.
- Prioritse the child’s needs: Remember that decisions should focus on what’s in the best interest of the child.
Secure your holiday plans with Lander Solicitors Queensland
Don’t let holiday co-parenting challenges overshadow this special time of year. With Lander Solicitors Queensland by your side, you can navigate these situations confidently and ensure your child has the joyful holiday and family time they deserve. Contact us today to schedule a consultation and let us help you create a parenting plan or order that works for your family.
DISCLAIMER – The information provided in this blog is general and does not consider your individual legal needs or objectives. It does not constitute personal advice and is for informational purposes only. We recommend seeking out professional and independent legal advice from a qualified Australian lawyer to advise on your individual situation before acting on any information contained below. Lander Solicitors Queensland accepts no express or implied liability for negligence or contractually for reliance on any information provided. Liability limited by a scheme approved under Professional Standards Legislation.
